前幾日天氣極好，市區目視極限星等竟至4等！看COBS無甚彗星C/2007 W1之北半球觀測報告，有的也稱角度很低，故想當然地以為此地亦不可為——光害甚重而豈可觀之。今日方查Carte du Ciel，大呼後悔。彗星觀測角度甚佳——皆因本地緯度較低。再看天氣，悲哀——即將轉壞……复犯想當然之誤……

戊子年五月初十，與友人同遊長洲中心湖。依林傍湖，閑庭野徑。隱隱之畔，頗得山人之樂。有感而發，故戲作詩二。

（一）

五月風光勝，偕朋步隱池。

幽鶯空恰恰，深柳自依依。

閒雨滋青草，微颸撫碧漪。

流連隨意趣，此樂竟何極！

（二）

荷葉田田一色空，傍沙岸鶩眼迷濃。

南風忽雨聲萬點，驚卻修靈入蘆叢。

生澀言語，不知所言。

電腦崩盤，藉他人之一用。13、14日終於在購書中心發現並買到了我等了3年之久的著名人物Sir Thomas Heath的著名書籍：《The Works of Archimedes》和《A History of Greek Mathematics》！！！激動了許久~~目前正刻苦研究著……真是相當佩服古希臘人的智慧……例如Archimedes求抛物線弓形面積方法之一是利用杠杆原理——數學問題物理化——雖然我老早就知道了，但是最近又被“洗禮”一番……現在我依然在苦等著Heath爵士的另二名作《Aristarchus of Samos》及《Greek Astronomy》…… 

　　另外7月8日淩晨00：30~03：00對彗星C/2006 VZ13 (LINEAR)進行了觀測並繪圖。結果如下：

OBS-V C/2006 VZ13 (LINEAR):

2007 July 07.75, ml=7.6, Dia.=6’, DC=4... (10.0cm-refractor, f/7, 28x; W.-t. Xu, Guangzhou; City light pollution but clear sky;)

　　副高帶漸漸東移，雲量增多，所以抓緊時間進行觀測。由於考慮到城市光害過重，遂周六往郊區觀測點，目標是C/2006 VZ13和新星V390 Normae。天空透明度差，有月光干擾，主要是中層雲影響觀測；南方嚴重受公路光害影響，北部及東北條件相當不錯。24日0時許開始觀測V390 Nor，受雲及光害影響未果，視場中該區域極限星等僅爲8.5等，而從AAVSO資料庫中得知該新星亮度在10.3等上下。24日23時許再次找尋，不過已經回到了市區，陣風風力較大，透明度比淩晨有所提高，但礙於光害，極限星等也只有9等多，若仍在郊區可能有戲。24日淩晨本想觀測C/2006 VZ13，在仙王座，亮度不錯，9.5等，就是高度較低。然而受中層雲影響，觀測失敗。

Terry Lovejoy運氣真好，幾年的努力沒白費，是辛勞換來的，運氣固有，可技術更高！5月26日他再次發現一可疑彗星，依然是偏綠，新西蘭的John Drummund發現目標彗發直徑約1′上下，目前E12已經確認了該目標，亮度在13等上下。仍爲NEO確認頁面的目標，估計明後天就可以正式確認，獲得編號了。祝賀！

這是到目前爲止的資料：

     TJ0001   C2007 05 26.3424  05 50 24.9  -15 09 16            13     NEOCPE27

     TJ0001   C2007 05 29.34201 06 05 38.82 -15 03 15.2                 NEOCPE12

     TJ0001   C2007 05 29.34442 06 05 39.56 -15 03 15.0                 NEOCPE12

     TJ0001   C2007 05 29.34673 06 05 40.25 -15 03 14.8          13.8   NEOCPE12

我算的軌道：

Orbital elements:

TJ0001

   Perihelion 2007 May 27.833826 TT

Epoch 2007 May 29.0 TT = JDT 2454249.5                  Find_Orb

q   1.153743             (2000.0)            P               Q

H   10.5           Peri.  281.31137     -0.34422925      0.87013298    

                   Node   202.96421      0.63666166      0.49240111    

e   1.0000472      Incl.   64.67758     -0.69004937      0.02024157    

From 4 observations 2007 May 26-29;   RMS error 0.154 arcseconds

Sebastian F. Hönig算的軌道：

New comet Lovejoy
Perihelion 2007 Apr 26
q 1.11
Peri. 249
Node 191
Incl. 65
e 1.0 (assumed)

我在SWAN中找到了疑似對應目標，亮度約在12至13等，較彌散：

picture size: 640 * 480

picture name        position

20070513_0002_SWAN.gif    (433,358)

20070515_0002_SWAN.gif    (431,358)

20070516_0002_SWAN.gif    (430,358)

20070517_0002_SWAN.gif    (430,358)

黃道座標（J2000）：

赤道座標（J2000）：

R.A. = 5.405 h, Decl. = -14.94 deg. J2000.00
R.A. = 5.524 h, Decl. = -14.82 deg. J2000.00
R.A. = 5.583 h, Decl. = -14.77 deg. J2000.00
R.A. = 5.583 h, Decl. = -14.77 deg. J2000.00

　　誤差在1平方度上下。

　　方向與NEOCP中的有些出入，其值應爲P.A.=0.88，速度也有點問題：NEOCP中值約爲3"/min。

SWAN中的彗星185P/Petriew已經變得相當明顯，2月22日將一系列最近發佈的圖片下了之後，迅速發現了該目標，開始以爲是SWAN圖片因太陽移動而造成的假像，後來發現路徑有點彎曲，隨即加入我自己的SWAN可疑列表，後來查了Tracking，發現可能是185P，但由於謹慎起見，未刪之。今天受到Rob在sohohunter上發佈的郵件，的確是185P。這9個月來對SWAN的努力還挺有收效，呵呵，慢慢來，這可不比SOHO的LASCO視場。

現在目前這顆彗星在12等上下。但是與太陽的角距有點可憐。本來挺想試試，但是這逼近極限的傢夥的條件如此惡劣，恐怕無望……

很久未至此一遊了，主要工夫都花在了本人新建的主頁Homepage von Wentao Xu上了，歡迎各位友人踩個印，多多提建議。以後這裏都儘是弄些Gemischem，觀測日記都會轉到本人主頁上了，所以以後此處中文篇章就占絕大多數了。

春節在外婆家過的，儘是陰雨天，讓人挺心煩的。還好，22日晚上開始放晴，23日淩晨持續，結果幸運地抓到了新星V1280 SCO，然而就在這個時候，又是日本的中村祐二氏和桜井幸夫再次分別獨立發現了另一顆近9等的新星V1281 SCO，位置與1280十分相近，只差了3度而已！！要是當時觀測區域擴大些，或許再做完記錄後能夠發現異樣——“獨立發現”……這當然是玩笑，我現在能觀測到別人的發現已經相當不錯了，還圖什麽發現？？自己還得要經歷大把大把的磨練，才能“成精”。首先現在自己心態就有很大問題，調整倒急不來，慢慢來吧——

我越來越發現現在國內有至少95%的 “天文愛好者”就是攝影而已，高手是挺多，可是盡拍照片，質量再好，“精華”再多，反正我覺得沒有更多價值……前不久的2007年白日大彗星P1，多難得的機會，好些人曆盡千心萬苦，終於拿了下來——拍到了，“興奮啊！！！”，“照片真漂亮啊——！”……有用嗎？沒有觀測資料說話，說到底除了美的欣賞，增加點拍攝經驗，我實在想不到其他一丁點的價值。國內成功觀測到P1的人我就各大論壇上看，不下15人，而有彗星觀測資料的就3人：葉泉志，張學軍還有我本人。這實在讓我想到X.-M. Zhou老師在世時發表的關於2001獅子座流星雨國人的表現那篇文章……有人會說，國外不也如此嗎？看看如此多的網站，圖片多漂亮啊！個個是精華！“哇——”君不見cometobs多少資料，很多是一些照片的作者；君不見Comets-ml多少資料，同樣很多是一些照片的作者；君不見ICQ的Recent Comets Estimates，多少資料！！同樣還是很多照片的作者。國內——對比對比吧！

反正這是我的地盤，發發感慨，頂多遭來幾篇攻擊，算不上什麽。自己“多餘”，操操心，國內圈內形勢“並無好轉”，國人現在喜歡用精神勝利法，而且是濫用，爲自己的行爲開脫辯解。還是胡改一句元曲：去了由他！

既然是Gemisch，亂點無所謂，想到啥說啥，不是作文，不管太多了。說回春節，也出了些樂事。頭一件是年三十晚上睡覺，舅舅挂蚊帳弄了老半天，“汗又濕了身”，正想美美地鑽進去，呀，挂反了！床靠著牆，蚊帳門跑到了牆那邊……第二見是年初二外公到水聲下村喂狗，結果被狗鎖在屋裏邊，出不去——鑰匙插在外邊，自動反鎖……最後還是我表哥解的圍。這事把我一家人弄得哭笑不得。

寒假裏又有些電視臺在播西遊記。西遊記，四大名著裏本人最喜歡的就是它了。電視舊版本的我也是非常喜歡。以前是看了又看，每次看感覺都不相同。這幾年時間少了，只好一邊搞自己的東西一邊看電視舊版的。還是那樣，體會到的東西又不同了。所以我是百看不厭，實在是愛到了極點。舊版的雖說電腦特技遠遠趕不上新版，但是我覺得舊版的味道更濃，演員的化妝、動作，以及環境等都比新版的好。我還十分喜歡舊版裏的歌曲，例如第十三集《三打白骨精》最後那首曲子——我不喜歡現在雜七雜八的流行音樂，要問我什麽歌星，我能答出二成就很了不得了，故很多人把我看成異類。雖然歌詞記不得，但喜歡沒人時哼著唱，反正自得其樂，沈醉其中。以前本人還時時模仿六小齡童演的孫悟空的動作，挺多人說蠻像的，日後再拍西遊記時就找我~~~妝都不用化太多，長得像。

最後扯叉足球，剛剛看完了拜仁的比賽，真的讓我眼前一亮——很久沒看到拜仁如此酣暢的進攻，如此強烈的求勝欲望。自從看完歐冠皇馬主場3-2擊敗拜仁那場比賽後，感覺拜仁開始有了希望。然而陰影仍在——後防令人擔憂。尤其是今天對沃爾夫斯堡，雖然2-1贏了，但是比賽過程中沃堡幾乎每一次進攻都對拜仁造成了威脅，只是今天運氣還不錯，加上卡恩也有狀態，才讓人進了一球。比賽完了才終於放下心來。期待不久的歐冠16強次回合比賽拜仁能夠力克皇馬，殺入8強。However，我很沒底……

就扯這些吧。看看也真夠雜的。

OBS-V: C/2006 M4 (SWAN) & C/2006 L1 (Garradd)

Sunday, Dec 10, 2006

C/2006 M4 (SWAN) :

A strong cold front swept here swiftly, which led to quite a lot of rains. The temperature fell to 14℃ in nights. However, the minimum temperature was 19℃ some times ago. It gradually turned clear on morning of Dec 10. The transparency was extremely clear so I decided to make observations of some bright comets in my grandparents’ home.

I started my observation at about 10: 35 UT. The first target was comet C/2006 M4 (SWAN) that I hadn’t seen for long. I easily pointed to the position where the comet was using a rough stars field drew by myself through the finder. To my surprise, I could see the stars of over magnitude of 8^th, which was still rare just in the suburb here. I observed through the main telescope then. The field contained a large number of faint stars. However, I couldn’t see anything like a diffuse comet. I kept on observing concentrated, finding something extremely faint in the predicted position of the comet. I doubted myself, regarding it as my phantom, for it appeared at times. I still kept observing and decided to make a sketch of the field to prove my result next day. It took me long to finish all of these. What’s more, measuring its magnitude and diameter was really hard under the slight-light-pollution circumstances. I doubted myself all the time during the observation for I didn’t catch its motion. I told myself it was just my phantom again and again. That’s it. However, after I had checked the electronic skymap, I was quite sure about it because that was just the right position for the comet. I was successfully finding this fading out object again.

Here comes my measurement:

Comet C/2006 M4 (SWAN)

IIIYYYYMnL YYYY MM DD.DD eM mm.m:r AAA.ATF/xxxx &dd.ddnDC &t.ttmANG ICQ XX*OBSxx

   2006M4  2006 12 10.47  S[ 9.2 TJ 10.0R 7  28   5    2            ICQ XX  XUxx

PS: Extremely clear sky. Slight light pollution in this direction. Barely seen. Hard to measure its magnitude.

I stopped my observation of comet C/2006 M4 at about 12: 15 UT.

Gap-time:

The constellations of winter was getting higher and higher. Pleiades was easily seen high in the evening sky. Since I had finished the observation of C/2006 M4, I decided to have a good look at the clusters and nebulae. I firstly pointed to NGC 1778 in Auriga. Then NGC 1857, M38, M36, NGC 1893, NGC 1857, M42, M43, etc. Not had brought any other sketch books except the ones of specializing in comets, I didn’t do any sketches of these objects.

C/2006 L1 (Garradd)

I started my observation of C/2006 L1 (Garradd) at about 12: 25 UT. It was almost on the borderline of Auriga and Lynx. The condition of this comet was much better than the one of comet C/2006 M4 that nearly no light pollution towards NE and N. The sky was rarely and terrific dark under this circumstances. More faint stars could be seen through the telescope, whose magnitude could nearly reach to 11.8. I almost immediately detected that the star TYC3391-02440-1 of 11.33m had a very faint and diffuse “nebula”. As I knew, the weakly condensed comet now was just in this area according to myself-drawing sky chart. However, when starting to observe it systemically, I could not see anything except the fix stars. Resting for a while and observing again, I got it and lost it soon as before. I made every effort to observe in my field but nothing has changed much. Although I doubted myself again, I planned to sketch it. About an hour later, I “felt” that the diffuse object had moved a bit, which suggested it was a real object in the sky. I measured its size and magnitude and something necessary. My measurements are offered below:

I hurriedly finished my observation there at about 14: 20 UT because I had to go to school next day. After checking the track of comet C/2006 L1 next day, I was quite self-confident. That was my second harvest on the day.

I took me about 3 hours and 35 minutes totally to observe comets. The total time of specially observing comets is about 43h05m up to date. I’ll clear up my all observations before including observing sun, planets, asteroids and deepsky when I’ve got enough time. That’ll be a huge mission, I think.

OBS-V: C/2006 M4 (SWAN)

OCT 29, 2006

The sky was much clearer than a few days ago. It happened to be a weekend so that I planned to go on with my observation of the comet C/2006 M4 (SWAN) in my grandma’s home where lies in the northeastern suburb. So I did.

The sky was almost dark though a crescent still hung in the low sky. However, the sky near the western horizon was hazy because the road not far from my spot was under re-construction. But it didn’t matter much. A not-very-bright light was on that influenced my searching a bit as well.

It was about a quarter past ten (UT) that I started my observation. The position of the comet was very easy found as well as I could see it exactly through the finder, which formed a giant difference between the one did in the city and in the suburb. I caught the sight of the bright comet through the main telescope immediately. The strong condensation and the large size of its diameter gave me a deep impression.

I made two sketches and measured some data of it. Here comes the measurement:

Comet C/2006 M4 (SWAN)
2006 Oct. 29.47UT, ml=5.0, Dia.=11', DC=7.5, 10.0cm-refractor, f/7, (28X/70X)
PS: I observed in the northern suburb and sky was much darker, however, an avenue not far from my observational spot is under construction so that the lower sky was influenced by the dust. In spite of these, the comet was very easy to be seen and the coma was really large.

I stopped me observation at about twelve o’ clock that was it took me 1 hour and forty-five minutes to complete my whole observation.

I had to take the agricultural courses in Sihui, Zhaoqing from Oct 30 to Nov 3. It was really hard to squeeze the free time out but finally I came with an idea was that doing my observations of the comet C/2006 M4 (SWAN) after finishing my bathing. So I did and it really helped a lot during these days. The only equipment with me there was my militarian binoculars 15x50.

OCT 30, 2006

I settled in the yard at about two o’clock (UT). The sky was really blue there. I did my observation at once after finishing my bathing as I promised before. It was about 10: 15UT. Maybe I behaved a strange way that a guard followed me all the time. I was told that I could only walk within the square, which was shone by two very bright lights seriously. To make matters worse, the moon lit brightly as well. In spite of all of these, I could get to the position easily where the comet was. Soon I saw the comet in the field without much difficulty. It located between the stars ε and ζ Her. , next to 53 Her. It was more diffuse than several days ago and the brightness has faded down to about 5.3m according to my measurement. To my surprise, I can see the tail of 1-deg. in p.a. 35 deg. I finished my observation at about 11: 00 UT.

OCT 31, 2006

The sky turned to hazy in the evening and covered with thin clouds. Moonlight also influenced strongly. I observed the comet almost the same time. The three fix stars mentioned above were still easily seen but the comet was not. I spent quite a lot of time proving whether I caught it or not. Thanks to my effort, I caught the sight of the barely-seen comet finally. The magnitude of it was hard to measure under such poor condition. I could only say it was fainter than 5.3m. The observation was completed at about 10: 50 UT.

NOV 01, 2006

The moon was hidden from the clouds; no stars were seen that night. I didn’t do my observation.

NOV 02, 2006

The last night we had in that place. We beat the teacher there 3: 0 in a football match. I didn’t feel much pressure during the match. I began with my search at about 10: 20 UT. The sky turned fine again and the transparency was excellent today. However, the moon lit more strongly, which serious influenced my observation of my lovely comet. But I caught the comet without any difficulty. It was surprised that I could see its tail of 1.5-deg. in p.a. 35-deg.!!! Supposing that if no moonlight, it’ll be more enormous. My search was over at about 11: 10 UT.

NOV 05, 2006

Weekend again and I’ve already come back, so I did my observation of the comet C/2006 M4 (SWAN) in the northern suburb again. I started my observation at about 10: 15 UT. Firstly I could see the comet in the finder barely, but, when the extremely bright moon rose above the mountains in the east, a lot of faintest stars in the field were hidden. I could still catch details of the comet without too much hardness. Here comes the consequence of the observation this time:

C/2006 M4 (SWAN):
2006 Nov. 05.46 UT: m1=5.6, Dia.=7', DC=7, 10.0cm-refractor, f/7, 28x...

PS: Moonlight strongly interfered. Very clear sky! Though I didn't see the tail of
the comet, I could "feel" that it directed in P.A.=40 deg.

I completed my observation at 12: 05 UT.

All of the recent observations were written into the ICQ format:

IIIYYYYMnL YYYY MM DD.DD eM/mm.m:r AAA.ATF/xxxx /dd.ddnDC /t.ttmANG ICQ XX*OBSxx

   2006M4  2006 10 29.47  M  5.0 TK 10.0R 7  28  11    7/  1     40 ICQ XX  XUxx

   2006M4  2006 10 30.45  M  5.3 TK  5.0B    15  10    7/  1     35 ICQ XX  XUxx

   2006M4  2006 10 31.45  M [5.3 TK  5.0B    15   8    6            ICQ XX  XUxx

   2006M4  2006 11 02.45  M  5.4 TK  5.0B    15   9    6   1.5   35 ICQ XX  XUxx

Go on with the Solwind files. I’ve tried to get hang of the skills for nearly a week. I downloaded the files in which some known Solwind comets were detected so that I can be familiar with it. Some images and animations are offered below.

OBS-V: C/2006 M4 (SWAN)

That's all! Good night!

Soho#  Date/Time of Post  Discoverer   Tel   Group  Images of..
===============================================================
1186  Sep02,06 12:54:52  H.Su          C2   Meyer   Sep02,06
1187  Sep11,06 15:04:09  T.Hoffman     C3   Kreutz  Sep11,06
1188  Sep18,06 03:11:18  R.Matson    C3,C2  Kreutz  Sep18,06
1189  Sep18,06 17:01:56  R.Matson    C3,C2  Kreutz  Sep18-19,06
1190  Sep18,06 17:04:52  R.Matson    C3,C2  Kreutz  Sep18-19,06
1191  Sep18,06 17:12:05  R.Matson    C3,C2  Kreutz  Sep18-19,06
1192  Sep18,06 17:44:10  R.Matson    C3,C2  Kreutz  Sep18-19,06

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　　在我的生活和工作中，有幾句話對我來說有十分重要的指導意義，我願意來和大家分享一下。

　　第一句是：優秀是一種習慣。

　　這句話是古希臘哲學家亞裏斯多德說的。如果說優秀是一種習慣，那麼懶惰也是一種習慣。人出生的時候，除了脾氣會因為天性而有所不同，其他的東西基本都是後天形成的，是家庭影響和教育的結果。所以，我們的一言一行都是日積月累養成的習慣。我們有的人形成了很好的習慣，有的人形成了很壞的習慣。到20歲左右的時候，我們已經有了自覺意識，已經開始明白什麼樣的習慣會使我們終身受益。所以我們從現在起就要把優秀變成一種習慣，使我們的優秀行為習以為常，變成我們的第二天性。讓我們習慣性地去創造性思考，習慣性地去認真做事情，習慣性地對別人友好，習慣性地欣賞大自然。我的很多習慣都是在辦“新東方”的這十年中逐漸養成的，包括我對待老師和員工的態度，對很多事情的看法。你養成了優秀的習慣，在人們眼中你就會顯得優秀。比如，讓我們今天就學會微笑，把悲傷留給自己，把快樂帶給別人。不管你是真心的還是職業性的微笑，只要你笑了，就會很美麗很好看，就會給人留下美好的印象。在西方社會，你走到很多地方人們都在微笑，儘管你知道那是職業性的，你依然能感覺這些微笑的人們很親切。如果我們“新東方”的員工每個人都板著臉上班，大家就會感覺像窒息了一樣，可能我們給你再多的錢你也不一定在“新東方”幹了，除非你是個喜歡受氣的受虐待狂。

　　第二句話是：生命是一種過程。

　　事業的結果儘管重要，但是做事情的過程更加重要，因為我們是在每一天的過程中生活，每一天都不幸福，就等於整個生命都不幸福。所以儘管我們注重事業的結果，因為結果好了我們會更加快樂，但過程使我們的生命充實。

　　人的生命最後的結果一定是死亡，我們不能因此說我們的生命沒有意義。歡樂是生命本身的渴望，人類是世界上惟一會笑的動物，但不是惟一懂得歡樂的動物。所有的動物都有歡樂的天性，這從很多小動物歡樂地奔跑和嬉戲中能夠看出來。人類的生存常常必須有比維持生存更高的目標，因為人類除了物質生活，還必須要有精神生活的滿足，因此人類必須比動物付出更艱辛的勞動。在物質方面，我們希望今年2000元一個月的工資，明年通過自己的努力變成3000元一個月，畢竟2000元和3000元給我們帶來的生活品質是不一樣的。但除此之外，我們就必須使精神生活大獲全勝。

　　曾國藩說過：“只顧耕耘，不顧收穫”。他並不是說我們不要收穫。曾國藩的意思很簡單，把種子撒進地裏，種子自然會成長，長到最後自然會有收穫，但是在維護莊稼成長的過程中給它澆水和施肥列為重要。因為只有這樣，種子才會長得健壯，收穫才會更好。另外，你每天日出而作，日落而息的勞動過程是你人生最美好的體驗。迎著太陽的你走向美麗的大地，看著夕陽西下，你扛著鋤頭回家，這種感覺難道不是很美好嗎？差不多到了陶淵明的“采菊東籬下，悠然見南山”的境界了。

　　所以大家一定要尋求每一天的充實。世界上很少有永恆，大學生談戀愛，每天都在信誓旦旦地說我會愛你一輩子，這實際上是不真實的，只是在表達一種願望而已。但我們還是在說，因為至少在那一刻，我們這樣的表達是真實感情的流露。追求永恆的愛是人類的畢生夢想，因為人在愛中永遠充實。但現實生活並不是這樣的，統計資料表明，大學生談戀愛的100對裏有90對最後會分手，最後結婚了的還有一半會離婚。你說愛情能永恆嗎？所以最真實的說法是：“我今天，此時此刻正在真心地愛著你。”明天也許你會失戀，失戀後我們會體驗到失戀的痛苦。那我們就去體會，去體驗，這種體驗也是豐富你生命的一個過程。

　　第三句話是：兩點之間最短的距離並不一定是直線。

　　特別是在人與人的關係以及做事情的過程中，我們很難直截了當就把事情做好。我們有時需要等待，有時需要合作，有時需要技巧。也許飛機能夠在兩點之間直飛，但即使飛機飛行，如果前面有個大氣流，也通常只能繞過那個大氣流飛行。我們做事情會碰到很多困難和障礙，有時候我們並不一定要硬挺、硬沖，我們可以選擇有困難繞過去，有障礙繞過去，也許這樣做事情更加順利。大家想一想，我們和別人說話還得想想哪句話更好聽呢。尤其在中國這個比較複雜的社會中，大家要學會想辦法諒解別人，要讓人覺得你這個人很成熟，很不錯，你才能把事情做成。

　　第四句話是：只有知道如何停止的人才知道如何加快速度。

　　汽車的品質越高，開得就越快。比如像賓士和寶馬這一類車，它們的高品質不僅體現在發動機系統上，還體現在刹車系統上。你開這些車的時候，就敢於高速行駛，因為你知道，只要你踩刹車，車就能穩穩地停下來，不至於翻車或跑到馬路外面去。但當我們開夏利車的時候，我們一定不會開得和賓士車一樣快，因為我們知道如果讓它跑得太快了，就很難刹車了，說不定就會撞欄杆或者翻了。所以說，沒有把握停下來的人是跑不快的人。

　　我在滑雪的時候，最大的體會就是停不下來。我剛開始學滑雪時沒有請教練，看著別人滑雪，覺得很容易，不就是從山頂滑到山下嗎？於是我穿上滑雪板，哧溜一下就滑下去了，結果我從山頂滑到山下，實際上是滾到山下，摔了很多個跟鬥。我發現根本就不知道怎麼停止，怎麼保持平衡。最後我反復觀察別人是怎麼停，怎麼滑的，然後再一點點地學，反復練習怎麼在雪地上、斜坡上停下來。練了一個星期，我終於學會了在任何坡上停止、滑行、再停止。這個時候我就發現自己會滑雪了，就敢從山頂高速地往山坡下沖。因為我知道只要我想停，一轉身就能停下來。只要你能停下來，你就不會撞上樹、撞上石頭、撞上人，你就不會被撞死。因此，只有知道如何停止的人，才知道如何高速前進。

　　最後一句話是：放棄是一種智慧，缺點是一種恩惠。

　　有一次我在一本書上讀到這句話，開始不理解，但在生活和工作中，終於開始明白其中的意義。在生活中，我們最愚蠢的行為就是太執著於自己的東西，把自己的東西捏著不放，不願意放棄。結果呢，你捏著不放，別人就不會把他的東西和你一起分享。沒有放棄就沒有得到，這是再明白不過的理論。我在這裏給大家講一下分享理論。當你擁有六個蘋果的時候，千萬不要把它們都吃掉，因為你把六個蘋果全都吃掉，你也只吃到了六個蘋果，只吃到了一種味道，那就是蘋果的味道。如果你把六個蘋果中的五個拿出來給別人吃，儘管表面上你丟了五個蘋果，但實際上你卻得到了其他五個人的友情和好感。以後你還能得到更多，當別人有了別的水果的時候，也一定會和你分享，你會從這個人手裏得到一個橘子，那個人手裏得到一個梨，最後你可能就得到了六種不同的水果，六種不同的味道，六種不同的顏色，六個人的友誼。人一定要學會用你擁有的東西去換取對你來說更加重要和豐富的東西。在人與人之間學會交換和分享，這個收穫同百倍於你一個人把六個蘋果吃掉的收穫。這是因為你放棄了五個蘋果而獲得的，所以大家想一想，放棄是不是一種智慧？

　　那什麼叫缺點是一種恩惠呢？就像我們剛開始說的那樣，如果我們是完美的，我們就沒有了發展的空間。一生下來就什麼都有了，這人還有什麼活頭？做人最大的樂趣在於通過奮鬥去獲得我們想要的東西。所以有缺點意味著我們可以進一步完美，有匱乏之處意味著我們可以進一步努力。我在美國看過一部電視片，講的是一位富翁給後代留下了用不盡的遺產，結果他的後代全都變成了吸毒的、自殺的、進監獄的，或者精神病患者。為什麼會這樣呢？因為這位富翁給自己後代留下的錢太多了，以致他們不需要勞動就可以繼承一大筆財產。繼承一大筆財富，就幾乎什麼都能買到。大家都知道錢的作用在於能買到物質世界上你所需要的全部東西，但惟一買不到的就是你心靈的充實、別人的友情以及你真誠的愛情。由於這些都是買不到的，所以你越有錢，心靈就越空虛，你就會極力用錢來填補自己的空虛，最後沒有辦法了就只能以吸毒來代替，使自己進入一個虛幻的世界。所以我說過，當一個人什麼都不缺的時候，他的生存空間就被剝奪掉了。如果我們每天早上醒過來，感到自己今天缺點兒什麼，感到自己還需要更加完美，感到自己還有追求，那是一件多麼值得高興的事情啊！